In my last post, Silence: A Relationship Killer, we explored the ruinous consequences that intentional silence has on relationships. Silence is antithetical to healthy communicating.… Continue reading Being Heard: Breaking Through the Impasse
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Silence: A Relationship Killer
Over the many years that I’ve been practicing therapy, I’ve found that couples that are struggling in their relationships often succumb to the default mode… Continue reading Silence: A Relationship Killer
A Radical Reality
To this day, quite possibly the most provocative, if not astounding, discovery of modern science remains relatively obscure to the general public. This is, perhaps,… Continue reading A Radical Reality
Communication Is the Heartbeat of Relationship
If communication is indeed the heartbeat of relationship, it’s little wonder that most relations are on coronary care. Once again we are confronted with another… Continue reading Communication Is the Heartbeat of Relationship
What Do We Mean by “Moving on”?
We recently announced a new feature at A Shift of Mind called the Question of the Week. The following is my response to Louise, who… Continue reading What Do We Mean by “Moving on”?
Getting Past the Right or Wrong Impasse
In the previous post we looked at how dominant the motif of seeking to be right is in our culture. It is one of the… Continue reading Getting Past the Right or Wrong Impasse
Why Is it so Important to Be Right?
One of the most prevalent – and damaging – themes in our culture is the need to be right. It’s one of those essential memes… Continue reading Why Is it so Important to Be Right?
The 5% Rule
Learning to remain present and not get drawn into the right or wrong argument requires a willful intention to come out of the groove of… Continue reading The 5% Rule
Shared Meaning
We take for granted that our words convey exactly what we intend them to. This is a particularly misinformed assumption. I have observed that upon… Continue reading Shared Meaning
Marriage: Work or Play?
Most marriages and primary relationships these days tend to focus more on expediency and structure than on substance and content. In a culture that promotes… Continue reading Marriage: Work or Play?