Mel Schwartz, LCSW

Change a Word—Change Your Life

Many years ago, I’d often fall into a recurring disagreement with my former wife. At bedtime I’d frequently find myself saying, “It’s hot in here.”… Continue reading Change a Word—Change Your Life

Do you Have Real Conversations?

For the most part we rarely engage in genuine conversations with one another. We rely upon formatted questions and answers that we exchange with each… Continue reading Do you Have Real Conversations?

Breaking the Cycle of Negativity in Your Relationship

Too often, when we encounter challenges and conflict in our primary relationships we tend to spiral down very quickly. When we’re in this down cycle,… Continue reading Breaking the Cycle of Negativity in Your Relationship

The Wrong Reason for Staying Married

The institution of marriage should be intended to enrich our lives. Certainly we might agree that the purpose of marriage ought to be to enhance… Continue reading The Wrong Reason for Staying Married

5 Principles That Unleash Your Power of Communication

What could be more important than acquiring a strong command of our communication?  We know that these skills are essential for enjoying successful relationships, building… Continue reading 5 Principles That Unleash Your Power of Communication

How are you?

Many times a day we may walk past an acquaintance and say, “Hi, how are you?” The other person smiles, says, “good and you?” And… Continue reading How are you?

The 5% Rule — Breaking Through the Argument

Early in my career as a therapist, I found myself feeling frustrated in my ability to assist a couple with whom I was working. They… Continue reading The 5% Rule — Breaking Through the Argument

Mastering Your Communication Skills: Breaking Through to the Other Side

Mastering your Communication Skills: Breaking Through to the Other Side  A Real-Time, Interactive, Online Workshop To enjoy resilient relationships, successful lives and authentic self-esteem we… Continue reading Mastering Your Communication Skills: Breaking Through to the Other Side

Are We Really Speaking about the Same Thing?

How often have you felt frustrated in conversations as if you were each talking about a different thing? That’s because you were… To experience truly… Continue reading Are We Really Speaking about the Same Thing?

Be the Change You Seek in the Other

Few things are as common to our relationships as our asking for, if not demanding, change from one another. These may begin as requests and… Continue reading Be the Change You Seek in the Other