The Possibility Podcast With Mel Schwartz Episode 027: How To Change People’s Minds

Trying to change people’s minds remains a frustrating and failure-ridden experience. When we argue facts and truths, our words tend to fall on deaf ears. No one wants to be wrong, and so a rigidity of mind sets in.

The way to open another person to rethinking their position is to talk about beliefs, rather than facts.

What facts we choose to look at are the result of our beliefs and biases. Our beliefs come from our family of origin, our experiences, and our close affiliations. Beliefs are amenable to reconsideration.

In this episode, Mel shares how you can have a generative discussion and open others to new thinking by avoiding facts and talking beliefs.

Show Notes

In the context of the episode, Mel mentions a former white supremacist whose mind was changed after his experiences in college. The man’s name is Derek Black. Eli Saslow wrote a book about Black’s transformation, Rising Out of Hatred.

Mel also mentioned his 5% Rule. Here is the article on the subject, and here is the podcast episode.

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The Possibility Podcast With Mel Schwartz Episode 026: We All Just Want to be Loved

We all just want to be loved…but we struggle as we get in our own way. In this episode, Mel navigates the nuances and complexities of relationships as he highlights the pitfalls that block us from loving intimacy.

Our tendency to personalize each other’s struggles subverts our ability to recognize that we all bring insecurities, doubts and wounds into our relationships. These challenges impact us, but may not be about us, or due to us.

Recognizing this enables us to act more kindly and more compassionately, which could, in turn, ignite more loving behavior.

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The Possibility Podcast recently passed 10,000 listener downloads. We literally owe it all to you!

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  • An e-book copy of his book The Art of Intimacy, The Pleasure of Passion
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Simply send an email to mel@melschwartz.com and let him know if you’d like the e-book, or the digital video download.

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The Possibility Podcast With Mel Schwartz Episode 025: Relationship Resilience During Coronavirus Confinement

Even in the best of times, recurring relationship conflicts and frustrating communications can feel daunting. During the coronavirus pandemic confinement, these challenges can feel even more overwhelming. But as always, crisis creates – and often opens – the door to new opportunities.

The habitual default in the battle of right vs. wrong decimates relationships and destroys compassion, empathy and love. There is a way through this impasse, however. Mel shares a breakthrough that came to him in the midst of a couple’s session he was conducting that led him to what he calls The 5% Rule.

This technique allows us to slow down, listen and validate each other. In turn, we focus not on facts or argumentation but on feelings and perspectives. The 5% Rule enables the energy of conflict to subside and the opportunity for meaningful dialogue to ensue.

Be sure to read the companion article to this episode, and please join Mel for ongoing support during the coronavirus pandemic at this special site.

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The Possibility Podcast With Mel Schwartz Episode 024: Staying Psychologically and Emotionally Resilient Through the Pandemic


In this special episode, Paul Samuel Dolman, host of the What Matters Most podcast and the author of several memoirs and other works, joins Mel as they share approaches for staying healthy on all levels as the novel coronavirus (covid-19) crisis impacts all of humanity.

Mel shares his techniques for sustaining a vigilance of mind, through which we don’t succumb to fear. The coronavirus ushers in frightening new realities, yet underneath this crisis new opportunities emerge for our growth. Remember that opportunity is always the flip side of crisis.  Trying to ward off uncertainty only induces greater fear. Learning to remain present in the moment is within our power.

The challenges we face through isolation and sheltering in place no longer allow us the distractions to which we’ve  become acclimated. However, the challenges of this pandemic provide us the opportunity to develop deeper levels of connectedness with those we shelter with– and others, from a distance.

Thankfully, the internet allows us this connectivity. We seem now to really be all as one; separation appears truly a myth. The homeless person may ultimately impact the health of the billionaire. We must utilize this connectivity to deepen our sense of humanity, with compassion and empathy.

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The Possibility Podcast With Mel Schwartz Episode 023: Bonus Episode ~ Mel on the Sounds True Podcast

In this bonus episode, Tami Simon of the Sounds True podcast Insights at the Edge interviews Mel on a wide variety of topics related to and inspired by his book The Possibility Principle.

Mel particularly enjoyed the challenging, in-depth, probing questions posed to him by host (and Sounds True publisher) Tami Simon. You will, too!

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The Possibility Podcast With Mel Schwartz Episode 022: Why You Shouldn’t Put Your Best Foot Forward

In dating and early stage romantic relationships, there’s a belief that we should put our best foot forward.

If we really look at this tendency, it makes little sense and can be ruinous. Hiding what the other might find displeasing in order to secure the relationship is self sabotaging on two levels:

 

  1. Over time both people may claim, “You’re not who I thought you were.” That would be predictable. This ultimately leads to conflict if not failure.
  2. On another level, we disinvest in our authentic self-worth when we hide what we feel insecure about, thereby doing harm to ourselves and, ultimately, to the relationship.

Before you make a commitment in a relationship, you both owe it to yourselves to invest in genuine emotional intimacy to best assure your relationship success.

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The Possibility Podcast With Mel Schwartz Episode 021: Do You Care How I Feel?

It’s all to common to get lost in the facts and details of arguments as we debate over right vs. wrong. This type of argument assures no resolution and contributes to the malaise of a relationship. It’s easy to say, “I love you,” but challenging to act lovingly.

To act with compassion and empathy requires caring how we both feel. The question to ask that can break the impasse of conflict is simply, “Do you care how I feel?”

In this episode Mel explains the dynamic that frees us from mindless back and forth arguments and enables us to come into caring and loving relationships.

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The Possibility Podcast With Mel Schwartz Episode 020: Bonus Episode ~ Mel on the Fear Not Podcast

In this bonus episode, Billy J. Atwell of the Fear Not podcast interviews Mel on the nature of fear and methods for transcending this common, yet debilitating emotion.

Although fear has its appropriate place in our lives, we tend to succumb to fear when there’s really no justification for such emotional paralysis. Mel explains what contributes to this sort of fear, ranging from discomfort with uncertainty to self-esteem issues to the very manner in which our thoughts operate. Don’t miss this life-changing episode on a topic dear to most of us.

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The Possibility Podcast With Mel Schwartz Episode 019: Bonus Episode ~ Mel on the CoreBrain Journal Podcast

In this bonus episode Mel Schwartz is interviewed by Dr. Charles Parker on his show CoreBrain Journal (hear the original episode here).

Dr. Parker and Mel explore how principles of quantum physics can be applied to our everyday life in unimaginable ways. Mel shares how he learned to untrain his mind from limiting beliefs and thoughts by shifting into that he calls a quantum worldview. He explains the harm done by our habit of either/or thinking that reduces reality to right vs. wrong.

The new quantum  paradigm fosters co-participatory relationships that move beyond the constraints of how we typically engage our lives. From this new perspective change no longer seems hard, but easily accessible. As we learn to embrace uncertainty fear and anxiety retreat as we ride the winds of change.

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The Possibility Podcast With Mel Schwartz Episode 018: Overcoming Anxiety


The belief that the best we can do is to cope with or manage anxiety is both wrong, irresponsible and harmful. The epidemic incidence of anxiety suggests that we are living from the wrong game plan.

Anxiety can be overcome once we learn to rethink how reality actually operates and embrace rather than avoid uncertainty.

In this episode, Mel Schwartz shares his approach for overcoming anxiety, fear and distress, which he cultivated from principles of quantum physics inspired initially by the book The Turning Point by Fritjof Capra. By learning to embrace uncertainty fear dissipates and we can become free to experience the wonders of life.

For information on Mel’s Overcoming Anxiety workshop at the 92nd St. Y on Jan. 19th, 2020, or to be notified about his upcoming online course on the subject, please contact Mel!

Want more? Watch Mel Schwartz’ TEDx talk, Breaking Free from Anxiety:

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