This question — asked so often — suggests that there is actually a plausible answer. Almost as if our identity were a fixed thing. People… Continue reading Who Am I?
Author: Mel Schwartz
Can Your Feelings Be Wrong?
This question comes up so often in my therapy sessions. The greatest source of invalidation comes from denying our feelings — whether we do it… Continue reading Can Your Feelings Be Wrong?
What is a mistake?
Most people try to avoid making mistakes. In fact, many people experience considerable stress and anxiety around avoiding mistakes. We may labor and fret over… Continue reading What is a mistake?
Breakthrough or Breakdown?
Breakthrough or Breakdown? With rare exceptions, we seem to struggle in our desire to breakthrough. Yet, exactly what are we trying to breakthrough? Typically, it’s… Continue reading Breakthrough or Breakdown?
Self-Esteem or Other Esteem?
After some consideration and many years of practice as a therapist, I have come to believe that the term self-esteem appears to be a misnomer.… Continue reading Self-Esteem or Other Esteem?
Doing the best you can
Is it always a good idea to do the best you can do? Moreover, can we ever be sure that it’s really our best? These… Continue reading Doing the best you can
The Gift of Confusion
We are encumbered by a cultural imperative to value clarity and to have the correct answer. The need to distance ourselves from confusion is mandated… Continue reading The Gift of Confusion
From Being to Becoming
How we experience our lives is very much informed by how we see reality operating. The prevailing mindset of most, still believe in a fixed,… Continue reading From Being to Becoming
The Paradox of Expectations
Beginning a new year often brings forth a review of our expectations and I thought it might be a good idea to briefly examine this… Continue reading The Paradox of Expectations
To excel or to have fun? That is the question.
I was recently having a conversation with a young man about his passion in certain sports. As we talked further it became very evident that… Continue reading To excel or to have fun? That is the question.