As with many goals that we struggle to attain, we tend to go after them in a way that blocks our success. Quite often I… Continue reading The Paradox of Confidence
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The 5% Rule — Breaking Through the Argument
Early in my career as a therapist, I found myself feeling frustrated in my ability to assist a couple with whom I was working. They… Continue reading The 5% Rule — Breaking Through the Argument
What Informs Your Belief?
While I was in the midst of delivering a somewhat provocative talk on the subject of change, a gentleman in the audience indicated that he… Continue reading What Informs Your Belief?
Getting Past the Right or Wrong Impasse
In the previous post we looked at how dominant the motif of seeking to be right is in our culture. It is one of the… Continue reading Getting Past the Right or Wrong Impasse
Why Is it so Important to Be Right?
One of the most prevalent – and damaging – themes in our culture is the need to be right. It’s one of those essential memes… Continue reading Why Is it so Important to Be Right?
Don’t Call Me A Shrink
The Myth of Objectivity When people ask me what I do for a living, I typically respond that I practice psychotherapy. I often hear the… Continue reading Don’t Call Me A Shrink
What Is a Mistake?
My previous post, “The Problem with Perfection,” unraveled some of the mythology and beliefs about notions of perfection that limit and impede many people’s lives.… Continue reading What Is a Mistake?
What is Emergent Thinking?
What I have come to call Emergent Thinking® is a process that began for me nearly eighteen years ago. I had been experiencing very significant… Continue reading What is Emergent Thinking?
What Do We Mean by Death, and How Does that Impact Our Lives?
We recently announced a new feature at A Shift of Mind called the Question of the Week. The following is my response to Sherin, who… Continue reading What Do We Mean by Death, and How Does that Impact Our Lives?
Creating Resilient Relationships
The wonder of first meeting and falling in love is in part due to the curiosity and passion of learning about each other. Regrettably, over… Continue reading Creating Resilient Relationships