Few things in life are more pivotal than a shift of mind. This profound experience catalyzes defining moments that enable you to embark on exciting new paths. The following articles are devoted to that purpose.
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Nurture Yourself
Your primary relationship in life is not with your spouse, your children, or with your parents or closest friend. Will you take the time to value...
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What In the Hell Do We Mean By…
Are you sure you know what's meant by the term "codependence?" Let's examine the word and the...
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Why Limit Yourself to a Therap…
Searching for a therapist "near me" limits your options. Discover the many advantages of remote individual, marriage, and couples...
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Igniting Your Change Process
You might not get to live life over, but you can change your life from this moment forward if you like... but how? Learn the techniques to break free...
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Emotional Nonviolence
We've all heard about the nonviolence movement eschewing physical violence. In this article, I make the case for emotional nonviolence, and show how...
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#131 Do You Nurture Yourself?
[powerpress] The Possibility Podcast with Mel Schwartz episode 131 asks a simple question: How is your relationship with yourself? The most
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The Problem with Perfection
In recent years, I’ve treated increasing numbers of individuals who are driven to distraction through their pursuit of perfection. The desire
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Real Esteem
Self-worth, self-esteem. What do they really mean? Being rich, being popular, Great grades, being followed, Captain of the team Still
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“Who am I?” Is the…
Many of us ask ourselves the age-old question, "Who am I?"This question presumes there might be a plausible answer, as if our identity could- or
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Designing Your Life – Fr…
Throughout our life most of our attention is focused on matters that are pertinent to us since they impact us significantly. When we were young we
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The 5% Rule — Breaking T…
Early in my career as a therapist, I found myself feeling frustrated in my ability to assist a couple with whom I was working. They were
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Mastering Your Communication S…
Mastering your Communication Skills: Breaking Through to the Other Side A Real-Time, Interactive, Online Workshop To enjoy resilient
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For the Sake of the Children
I’ve often heard people in conflicted and unhappy marriages claim that they are staying together for the sake of the children. Their implied
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Raising Resilient Children
As parents, no matter how devoted and nurturing we may be, our children often struggle with low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and a host of other
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Shared Meaning
We take for granted that our words convey exactly what we intend them to. This is a particularly misinformed assumption. I have observed that upon
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To excel or to have fun? That …
I was recently having a conversation with a young man about his passion in certain sports. As we talked further it became very evident that he would
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Is Our Society Manufacturing D…
An Epidemic of Depression Our society is in the throes of a virtual epidemic of depression. The numbers are quite staggering. More than twenty
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Breaking Free from Your Comfor…
Our Most Intimate Relationship The most intimate relationship we will have in our lives is not with our parents, our spouses, our children or
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The pathologizing of a culture
A young woman in her mid-twenties recently came in for her first visit with me. Three months earlier she had experienced her first bout of anxiety
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Do not measure thyself!
In my work as a psychotherapist I often see individuals who are plagued by a relentless measuring of themselves. These people carry on an internal
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Coming into Balance
A few summers ago I broke my foot, the fracture occurring as I missed a step on my front porch. The break occurred on the outside part of my foot —
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Does Familiarity Breed Contemp…
The expression "familiarity breeds contempt" is all too familiar. Yet, as the case with many common sayings, we might benefit from taking a look at
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Marriage: Work or Play?
Most marriages and primary relationships these days tend to focus more on expediency and structure than on substance and content. In a culture that
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Commitment
Why Do We Mean by Commitment? What does the word commitment suggest? It usually evokes a strong sense of intention and focus. It typically is
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To excel or to have fun? That …
I was recently having a conversation with a young man about his passion in certain sports. As we talked further it became very evident that he would
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Are We Really Speaking about t…
How often have you felt frustrated in conversations as if you were each talking about a different thing? That's because you were... To experience
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Be the Change You Seek in the …
Few things are as common to our relationships as our asking for, if not demanding, change from one another. These may begin as requests and over time
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Being Heard: Breaking Through …
In my last post, Silence: A Relationship Killer, we explored the ruinous consequences that intentional silence has on relationships. Silence is
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Silence: A Relationship Killer
Over the many years that I’ve been practicing therapy, I’ve found that couples that are struggling in their relationships often succumb to the
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A Radical Reality
To this day, quite possibly the most provocative, if not astounding, discovery of modern science remains relatively obscure to the general public.
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Collapsing The Wave: Creating …
Some of the remarkable discoveries from quantum physics can be adapted to help us break free from the groove of our past and unleash real change in
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Breaking Free from Your Comfor…
Our Most Intimate Relationship The most intimate relationship we will have in our lives is not with our parents, our spouses, our children or
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What Is a Mistake?
My previous post, “The Problem with Perfection,” unraveled some of the mythology and beliefs about notions of perfection that limit and impede
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What is Emergent Thinking?
What I have come to call Emergent Thinking® is a process that began for me nearly eighteen years ago. I had been experiencing very significant life
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What Informs Your Belief?
While I was in the midst of delivering a somewhat provocative talk on the subject of change, a gentleman in the audience indicated that he had a
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Getting Past the Right or Wron…
In the previous post we looked at how dominant the motif of seeking to be right is in our culture. It is one of the most singular influences on our
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Why Is it so Important to Be R…
One of the most prevalent – and damaging – themes in our culture is the need to be right. It’s one of those essential memes that we take for
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The Paradox of Confidence
As with many goals that we struggle to attain, we tend to go after them in a way that blocks our success. Quite often I find that individuals who
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Coming into Balance
A few summers ago I broke my foot, the fracture occurring as I missed a step on my front porch. The break occurred on the outside part of my foot —
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