The Blog - Mel Schwartz

Few things in life are more pivotal than a shift of mind. This profound experience catalyzes defining moments that enable you to embark on exciting new paths. The following articles are devoted to that purpose.

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Rethinking Relationships

One of the primary problems we encounter in our relationships is due to how we envision them. Conventional advice regarding relationships and...

“Who am I?” Is the…

Many of us ask ourselves the age-old question, “Who am I?“This question presumes there might be a plausible answer, as if...

Why New Year’s Resolutio…

At this time of year many of us make New Year’s resolutions that over time wither and fade as we try vainly to transform some… Continue...

Breaking Free From the Groove …

Those of us old enough to remember vinyl records-notwithstanding their recent comeback-might recall that when there was a scratch on the album, the...

Getting Unstuck: Overcoming An…

In any given year approximately 40 million Americans will suffer from a debilitating encounter with anxiety. Over the course of your lifetime,...

Change a Word—Change Your Li…

Many years ago, I’d often fall into a recurring disagreement with my former wife. At bedtime I’d frequently find myself saying, “It’s hot in...

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Why Acting Strong is Actually …

A troubling theme that I come across in my work as a therapist -- and in my observation of people in general -- is the belief that we should always

Why I Can’t… or Wh…

The beliefs we carry with us carve out forks in the road of our life. They direct us down very different paths and experiences. Our primary beliefs

Raising Resilient Children

As parents, no matter how devoted and nurturing we may be, our children often struggle with low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and a host of other

Why You Shouldn’t Put Yo…

Most people begin their dating relationships by putting their proverbial “best foot” forward. We do this to entice the other person to like us

Freeing Yourself from the Grip…

To further our exploration of developing authentic self-esteem, I'm pleased to announce the launch of the Self-Esteem Workshop, a live, interactive

Self Esteem or Other Esteem?

In my previous article, Self-Esteem: A Missed Diagnosis, I proposed that a devaluation of one’s self lies at the heart of most psychological and

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#137 Overcome Anxiety

[powerpress] In The Possibility Podcast episode 137, I share my approach for overcoming anxiety, fear and distress cultivated from principles of

The Problem with Perfection

In recent years, I’ve treated increasing numbers of individuals who are driven to distraction through their pursuit of perfection. The desire

Staying Resilient and Manifest…

Wednesday 05/13/2020 3:00 PM - 4:15 EDT This event will be recorded and sent to registrants Sliding scale fee: $30.00, $40.00, $50.00 To

Overcoming Anxiety in The Time…

Let's begin by looking at what we mean by the word anxiety. Anxiety is the emotional/physical response that occurs when our thoughts attach to

Getting Unstuck: Overcoming An…

In any given year approximately 40 million Americans will suffer from a debilitating encounter with anxiety. Over the course of your lifetime,

Why We Suffer From Anxiety and…

In any given year approximately 40 million Americans will suffer from a debilitating encounter with anxiety. Over the course of your lifetime,

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The 5% Rule — Breaking T…

Early in my career as a therapist, I found myself feeling frustrated in my ability to assist a couple with whom I was working. They were

Mastering Your Communication S…

Mastering your Communication Skills: Breaking Through to the Other Side A Real-Time, Interactive, Online Workshop To enjoy resilient

For the Sake of the Children

I’ve often heard people in conflicted and unhappy marriages claim that they are staying together for the sake of the children. Their implied

Raising Resilient Children

As parents, no matter how devoted and nurturing we may be, our children often struggle with low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and a host of other

Shared Meaning

We take for granted that our words convey exactly what we intend them to. This is a particularly misinformed assumption. I have observed that upon

To excel or to have fun? That …

I was recently having a conversation with a young man about his passion in certain sports. As we talked further it became very evident that he would

Is Our Society Manufacturing D…

An Epidemic of Depression Our society is in the throes of a virtual epidemic of depression. The numbers are quite staggering. More than twenty

Breaking Free from Your Comfor…

Our Most Intimate Relationship The most intimate relationship we will have in our lives is not with our parents, our spouses, our children or

The pathologizing of a culture

A young woman in her mid-twenties recently came in for her first visit with me. Three months earlier she had experienced her first bout of anxiety

Do not measure thyself!

In my work as a psychotherapist I often see individuals who are plagued by a relentless measuring of themselves. These people carry on an internal

What is Emergent Thinking?

Emergent Thinking (R) is a transformative process that I have developed to assist people in their personal evolution and self-actualization. The

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Falling In and Out – and Bac…

The experience of falling in love is truly a thing of marvel. It’s a remarkable and incomparable feeling. Time seems altered and our senses become

Be the Change You Seek in the …

Few things are as common to our relationships as our asking for, if not demanding, change from one another. These may begin as requests and over time

Why You Shouldn’t Put Yo…

Most people begin their dating relationships by putting their proverbial “best foot” forward. We do this to entice the other person to like us

Being Heard: Breaking Through …

In my last post, Silence: A Relationship Killer, we explored the ruinous consequences that intentional silence has on relationships. Silence is

Silence: A Relationship Killer

Over the many years that I’ve been practicing therapy, I’ve found that couples that are struggling in their relationships often succumb to the

Freeing Yourself from the Grip…

To further our exploration of developing authentic self-esteem, I'm pleased to announce the launch of the Self-Esteem Workshop, a live, interactive

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Staying Resilient and Manifest…

Wednesday 05/13/2020 3:00 PM - 4:15 EDT This event will be recorded and sent to registrants Sliding scale fee: $30.00, $40.00, $50.00 To

Don’t Personalize Your Partn…

They may impact you but they may not be about you Our close personal relationships often feel like we’re under a microscope, as we examine, react

Turning the Tide Of Negativity…

I find it troubling that our inclination toward criticizing one another, particularly in familial or committed partnerships, overwhelms our

Our Words Matter

I've been struck by how often our words fly by each other without any real sincerity to them. Have you noticed how punctuated and meaningless our

Change a Word—Change Your Li…

Many years ago, I’d often fall into a recurring disagreement with my former wife. At bedtime I’d frequently find myself saying, “It’s hot in

Do you Have Real Conversations…

For the most part we rarely engage in genuine conversations with one another. We rely upon formatted questions and answers that we exchange with each

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Embracing Uncertainty to Manif…

The pursuit of our personal change process often results in frustration and struggle. As much as we may fantasize new visions for our life, we tend

Quantum Relationship: Keeping …

The experience of falling in love is altogether reminiscent of what in quantum physics is known as entanglement. In the microscopic realm once two

Living a Fear-Less Life

Fear is a universal experience for virtually all of us. Perhaps there are a few exceptions to this rule, such as the Dalai Lama, but for the rest of

Falling In and Out – and Bac…

The experience of falling in love is truly a thing of marvel. It’s a remarkable and incomparable feeling. Time seems altered and our senses become

Overcoming Anxiety: Turning Yo…

Overcoming Anxiety A LIVE Interactive Videoconference Learn to turn your thoughts into your ally! 3 Wednesday evenings — 7:15-8:30 PM

A Radical Reality

To this day, quite possibly the most provocative, if not astounding, discovery of modern science remains relatively obscure to the general public.

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#133 Possibility and Quantum P…

[powerpress] The Possibility Podcast with Mel Schwartz episode 133 is another bonus episode: a conversation you may not have heard between Christian

#132 Quantum Physics and Psych…

[powerpress] The Possibility Podcast with Mel Schwartz episode 132 is a bonus episode: an interview I gave Dwight Hurst on The Broken Brain

Igniting Your Change Process

We’re all familiar with the expression, “If I could only live my life over.” We obviously cannot get a redo over what has past, but we can

Getting Beyond “How Does…

Traditional therapy is often a blend of inquiry and validation, followed by the time-honored refrain, “How does that make you feel?” While

Over-Simplifying Equals Dumbin…

The problem is not what we think, it’s how we think. Our thinking inclines toward gross over-simplifying. This habit leads to a mindless dulling

The Problem with Perfection

In recent years, I’ve treated increasing numbers of individuals who are driven to distraction through their pursuit of perfection. The desire

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