Few things in life are more pivotal than a shift of mind. This profound experience catalyzes defining moments that enable you to embark on exciting new paths. The following articles are devoted to that purpose.
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Somewhere… Over the Rain…
The passing of Tim Russert inspired a very unqiue and extraordinary response in so many of us. He truly integrated so many core features of...
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If marriage were a corporation…
The fact that more than half of marriages end in divorce is actually the lesser problem. The more telling consideration is that the majority...
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The Familiar Zone
What we refer to as our comfort zone becomes at times not quite so comfortable, as it is familiar. Old habits and behaviors that we… Continue...
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Uncertainty: Our Great Liberat…
Certainty and predictability, the dominant motifs of Newton’s worldview are deeply rooted in our culture and in our thinking. These...
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#131 Do You Nurture Yourself?
[powerpress] The Possibility Podcast with Mel Schwartz episode 131 asks a simple question: How is your relationship with yourself? The most
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The Problem with Perfection
In recent years, I’ve treated increasing numbers of individuals who are driven to distraction through their pursuit of perfection. The desire
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Real Esteem
Self-worth, self-esteem. What do they really mean? Being rich, being popular, Great grades, being followed, Captain of the team Still
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“Who am I?” Is the…
Many of us ask ourselves the age-old question, "Who am I?"This question presumes there might be a plausible answer, as if our identity could- or
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Designing Your Life – Fr…
Throughout our life most of our attention is focused on matters that are pertinent to us since they impact us significantly. When we were young we
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The 5% Rule — Breaking T…
Early in my career as a therapist, I found myself feeling frustrated in my ability to assist a couple with whom I was working. They were
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Mastering Your Communication S…
Mastering your Communication Skills: Breaking Through to the Other Side A Real-Time, Interactive, Online Workshop To enjoy resilient
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For the Sake of the Children
I’ve often heard people in conflicted and unhappy marriages claim that they are staying together for the sake of the children. Their implied
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Raising Resilient Children
As parents, no matter how devoted and nurturing we may be, our children often struggle with low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and a host of other
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Shared Meaning
We take for granted that our words convey exactly what we intend them to. This is a particularly misinformed assumption. I have observed that upon
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To excel or to have fun? That …
I was recently having a conversation with a young man about his passion in certain sports. As we talked further it became very evident that he would
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Is Our Society Manufacturing D…
An Epidemic of Depression Our society is in the throes of a virtual epidemic of depression. The numbers are quite staggering. More than twenty
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Breaking Free from Your Comfor…
Our Most Intimate Relationship The most intimate relationship we will have in our lives is not with our parents, our spouses, our children or
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The pathologizing of a culture
A young woman in her mid-twenties recently came in for her first visit with me. Three months earlier she had experienced her first bout of anxiety
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Do not measure thyself!
In my work as a psychotherapist I often see individuals who are plagued by a relentless measuring of themselves. These people carry on an internal
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What In the Hell Do We Mean By…
After reading an article in The Atlantic by Elisa Strauss titled “The Myth of Codependency,” I began to wonder: what in the hell do we mean by
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Over-Simplifying Equals Dumbin…
The problem is not what we think, it’s how we think. Our thinking inclines toward gross over-simplifying. This habit leads to a mindless dulling
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Staying Resilient and Manifest…
Wednesday 05/13/2020 3:00 PM - 4:15 EDT This event will be recorded and sent to registrants Sliding scale fee: $30.00, $40.00, $50.00 To
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Don’t Personalize Your Partn…
They may impact you but they may not be about you Our close personal relationships often feel like we’re under a microscope, as we examine, react
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Relationship Resilience During…
This is an ideal time to learn breakthrough communication skills Even in the best of times, dealing with relationship conflict and frustrating
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What Do We Mean by “Movi…
We recently announced a new feature at A Shift of Mind called the Question of the Week. The following is my response to Louise, who wrote: "People
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Getting Past the Right or Wron…
In the previous post we looked at how dominant the motif of seeking to be right is in our culture. It is one of the most singular influences on our
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Why Is it so Important to Be R…
One of the most prevalent – and damaging – themes in our culture is the need to be right. It’s one of those essential memes that we take for
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The 5% Rule
Learning to remain present and not get drawn into the right or wrong argument requires a willful intention to come out of the groove of an old habit.
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Shared Meaning
We take for granted that our words convey exactly what we intend them to. This is a particularly misinformed assumption. I have observed that upon
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Collapsing The Wave: Creating …
Some of the remarkable discoveries from quantum physics can be adapted to help us break free from the groove of our past and unleash real change in
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Breaking Free from Your Comfor…
Our Most Intimate Relationship The most intimate relationship we will have in our lives is not with our parents, our spouses, our children or
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What Is a Mistake?
My previous post, “The Problem with Perfection,” unraveled some of the mythology and beliefs about notions of perfection that limit and impede
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What is Emergent Thinking?
What I have come to call Emergent Thinking® is a process that began for me nearly eighteen years ago. I had been experiencing very significant life
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Raising Resilient Children
As parents, no matter how devoted and nurturing we may be, our children often struggle with low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and a host of other
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Be the Change You Seek in the …
Few things are as common to our relationships as our asking for, if not demanding, change from one another. These may begin as requests and over time
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Why You Shouldn’t Put Yo…
Most people begin their dating relationships by putting their proverbial “best foot” forward. We do this to entice the other person to like us
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Being Heard: Breaking Through …
In my last post, Silence: A Relationship Killer, we explored the ruinous consequences that intentional silence has on relationships. Silence is
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Silence: A Relationship Killer
Over the many years that I’ve been practicing therapy, I’ve found that couples that are struggling in their relationships often succumb to the
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