The Blog - Mel Schwartz

Few things in life are more pivotal than a shift of mind. This profound experience catalyzes defining moments that enable you to embark on exciting new paths. The following articles are devoted to that purpose.

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Somewhere… Over the Rain…

The passing of Tim Russert inspired a very unqiue and extraordinary response in so many of us. He truly integrated so many core features of...

If marriage were a corporation…

The fact that more than half of marriages end in divorce is actually the lesser problem. The more telling consideration is that the majority...

The Familiar Zone

What we refer to as our comfort zone becomes at times not quite so comfortable, as it is familiar. Old habits and behaviors that we… Continue...

Uncertainty: Our Great Liberat…

Certainty and predictability, the dominant motifs of Newton’s worldview are deeply rooted in our culture and in our thinking. These...

What is Emergent Thinking?

Emergent Thinking (R) is a transformative process that I have developed to assist people in their personal evolution and self-actualization. The...

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Why Acting Strong is Actually …

A troubling theme that I come across in my work as a therapist -- and in my observation of people in general -- is the belief that we should always

Why I Can’t… or Wh…

The beliefs we carry with us carve out forks in the road of our life. They direct us down very different paths and experiences. Our primary beliefs

Raising Resilient Children

As parents, no matter how devoted and nurturing we may be, our children often struggle with low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and a host of other

Why You Shouldn’t Put Yo…

Most people begin their dating relationships by putting their proverbial “best foot” forward. We do this to entice the other person to like us

Freeing Yourself from the Grip…

To further our exploration of developing authentic self-esteem, I'm pleased to announce the launch of the Self-Esteem Workshop, a live, interactive

Self Esteem or Other Esteem?

In my previous article, Self-Esteem: A Missed Diagnosis, I proposed that a devaluation of one’s self lies at the heart of most psychological and

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Turning Crisis into Opportunit…

Crises come into our lives, no matter how we may try to avoid them. They are troubling, unwanted experiences or events that take us out way out of

Stuck in a Groove

For those of us old enough to remember vinyl records, we might recall that when there was a scratch on the album, the needle would sometimes get

Breaking Free from Your Comfor…

Our Most Intimate Relationship The most intimate relationship we will have in our lives is not with our parents, our spouses, our children or

What Is a Mistake?

My previous post, “The Problem with Perfection,” unraveled some of the mythology and beliefs about notions of perfection that limit and impede

Coming into the Edge……

I was in the middle of a challenging stretch in a yoga class recently, when the instructor encouraged us to come into the edge. Move beyond the

The Familiar Zone

What we refer to as our comfort zone becomes at times not quite so comfortable, as it is familiar. Old habits and behaviors that we struggle to

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The 5% Rule — Breaking T…

Early in my career as a therapist, I found myself feeling frustrated in my ability to assist a couple with whom I was working. They were

Mastering Your Communication S…

Mastering your Communication Skills: Breaking Through to the Other Side A Real-Time, Interactive, Online Workshop To enjoy resilient

For the Sake of the Children

I’ve often heard people in conflicted and unhappy marriages claim that they are staying together for the sake of the children. Their implied

Raising Resilient Children

As parents, no matter how devoted and nurturing we may be, our children often struggle with low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and a host of other

Shared Meaning

We take for granted that our words convey exactly what we intend them to. This is a particularly misinformed assumption. I have observed that upon

To excel or to have fun? That …

I was recently having a conversation with a young man about his passion in certain sports. As we talked further it became very evident that he would

Is Our Society Manufacturing D…

An Epidemic of Depression Our society is in the throes of a virtual epidemic of depression. The numbers are quite staggering. More than twenty

Breaking Free from Your Comfor…

Our Most Intimate Relationship The most intimate relationship we will have in our lives is not with our parents, our spouses, our children or

The pathologizing of a culture

A young woman in her mid-twenties recently came in for her first visit with me. Three months earlier she had experienced her first bout of anxiety

Do not measure thyself!

In my work as a psychotherapist I often see individuals who are plagued by a relentless measuring of themselves. These people carry on an internal

What is Emergent Thinking?

Emergent Thinking (R) is a transformative process that I have developed to assist people in their personal evolution and self-actualization. The

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Quantum Relationship: Keeping …

The experience of falling in love is altogether reminiscent of what in quantum physics is known as entanglement. In the microscopic realm once two

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Countless people struggle with the answer to this most daunting question. As our relationship hangs on the precipice of making this decision, how we

The 5% Rule — Breaking T…

Early in my career as a therapist, I found myself feeling frustrated in my ability to assist a couple with whom I was working. They were

Mastering Your Communication S…

Mastering your Communication Skills: Breaking Through to the Other Side A Real-Time, Interactive, Online Workshop To enjoy resilient

For the Sake of the Children

I’ve often heard people in conflicted and unhappy marriages claim that they are staying together for the sake of the children. Their implied

Are We Really Speaking about t…

How often have you felt frustrated in conversations as if you were each talking about a different thing? That's because you were... To experience

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Staying Resilient and Manifest…

Wednesday 05/13/2020 3:00 PM - 4:15 EDT This event will be recorded and sent to registrants Sliding scale fee: $30.00, $40.00, $50.00 To

Don’t Personalize Your Partn…

They may impact you but they may not be about you Our close personal relationships often feel like we’re under a microscope, as we examine, react

Turning the Tide Of Negativity…

I find it troubling that our inclination toward criticizing one another, particularly in familial or committed partnerships, overwhelms our

Our Words Matter

I've been struck by how often our words fly by each other without any real sincerity to them. Have you noticed how punctuated and meaningless our

Change a Word—Change Your Li…

Many years ago, I’d often fall into a recurring disagreement with my former wife. At bedtime I’d frequently find myself saying, “It’s hot in

Do you Have Real Conversations…

For the most part we rarely engage in genuine conversations with one another. We rely upon formatted questions and answers that we exchange with each

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#132 Quantum Physics and Psych…

[powerpress] The Possibility Podcast with Mel Schwartz episode 132 is a bonus episode: an interview I gave Dwight Hurst on The Broken Brain

Breaking Free From the Groove …

Those of us old enough to remember vinyl records-notwithstanding their recent comeback-might recall that when there was a scratch on the album, the

Change a Word—Change Your Li…

Many years ago, I’d often fall into a recurring disagreement with my former wife. At bedtime I’d frequently find myself saying, “It’s hot in

Breaking the Cycle of Negativi…

Too often, when we encounter challenges and conflict in our primary relationships we tend to spiral down very quickly. When we’re in this down

Why We Suffer From Anxiety and…

In any given year approximately 40 million Americans will suffer from a debilitating encounter with anxiety. Over the course of your lifetime,

Integrating your Intelligence …

Intelligence and intuition are very different ways of knowing. We might think of them in opposing ways. Most people tend to default into operating

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#133 Possibility and Quantum P…

[powerpress] The Possibility Podcast with Mel Schwartz episode 133 is another bonus episode: a conversation you may not have heard between Christian

#132 Quantum Physics and Psych…

[powerpress] The Possibility Podcast with Mel Schwartz episode 132 is a bonus episode: an interview I gave Dwight Hurst on The Broken Brain

Igniting Your Change Process

We’re all familiar with the expression, “If I could only live my life over.” We obviously cannot get a redo over what has past, but we can

Getting Beyond “How Does…

Traditional therapy is often a blend of inquiry and validation, followed by the time-honored refrain, “How does that make you feel?” While

Over-Simplifying Equals Dumbin…

The problem is not what we think, it’s how we think. Our thinking inclines toward gross over-simplifying. This habit leads to a mindless dulling

The Problem with Perfection

In recent years, I’ve treated increasing numbers of individuals who are driven to distraction through their pursuit of perfection. The desire

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