Few things in life are more pivotal than a shift of mind. This profound experience catalyzes defining moments that enable you to embark on exciting new paths. The following articles are devoted to that purpose.
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Getting Beyond “How Does…
"How does that make you feel?" is almost a therapy cliche. Mel Schwartz explains why moving beyond feelings leads to truly effective...
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#122 The Inner Path of Leaders…
In another cross-posting of the blog and podcast, Mel reveals the three pillars of singular, excellent leadership. The podcast includes a...
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#121 How Wealth Can Negatively…
In a special cross-posting of the blog and podcast, the focus is on how wealth can often be detrimental to healthy interpersonal and familial...
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Over-Simplifying Equals Dumbin…
Either / or thinking leads to stagnation, while embracing complexity brings clarity of thought. Read to discover how our relationships evolve once we...
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Can Our Relationship Be Repair…
This very question highlights the problem One of the primary problems in relationships arises from how we envision our relationships. Conventional...
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Low Self-Esteem: A Missed Diag…
According to the National Institute of Health, one in every two Americans will ultimately be diagnosed with some form of mental illness. What’s
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Diagnosis Disorder
I would like to propose a new disorder for the American Psychiatric Association to consider in its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental
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Making New Year’s Resolution…
Year after year, we make New Year’s resolutions that over time wither and fade into failed attempts to transform some aspect of our lives. The
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When Doing the Best You Can Be…
Is it always a good idea to do the best you can do? This question came up recently in a therapy session and catalyzed me to look more deeply into the
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Turning Crisis into Opportunit…
Crises come into our lives, no matter how we may try to avoid them. They are troubling, unwanted experiences or events that take us out way out of
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The 5% Rule — Breaking T…
Early in my career as a therapist, I found myself feeling frustrated in my ability to assist a couple with whom I was working. They were
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Mastering Your Communication S…
Mastering your Communication Skills: Breaking Through to the Other Side A Real-Time, Interactive, Online Workshop To enjoy resilient
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For the Sake of the Children
I’ve often heard people in conflicted and unhappy marriages claim that they are staying together for the sake of the children. Their implied
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Raising Resilient Children
As parents, no matter how devoted and nurturing we may be, our children often struggle with low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and a host of other
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Shared Meaning
We take for granted that our words convey exactly what we intend them to. This is a particularly misinformed assumption. I have observed that upon
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To excel or to have fun? That …
I was recently having a conversation with a young man about his passion in certain sports. As we talked further it became very evident that he would
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Getting Unstuck: Overcoming An…
In any given year approximately 40 million Americans will suffer from a debilitating encounter with anxiety. Over the course of your lifetime,
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Raising Resilient Children
As parents, no matter how devoted and nurturing we may be, our children often struggle with low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and a host of other
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Overcoming Anxiety: Turning Yo…
Overcoming Anxiety A LIVE Interactive Videoconference Learn to turn your thoughts into your ally! 3 Wednesday evenings — 7:15-8:30 PM
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Rethinking Anxiety
When a dysfunction such as anxiety – or depression, for that matter – becomes so commonplace, we must turn to our culture, which is our aggregate
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Low Self-Esteem: A Missed Diag…
According to the National Institute of Health, one in every two Americans will ultimately be diagnosed with some form of mental illness. What’s
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Coming into Balance
A few summers ago I broke my foot, the fracture occurring as I missed a step on my front porch. The break occurred on the outside part of my foot —
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Does Familiarity Breed Contemp…
The expression "familiarity breeds contempt" is all too familiar. Yet, as the case with many common sayings, we might benefit from taking a look at
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Marriage: Work or Play?
Most marriages and primary relationships these days tend to focus more on expediency and structure than on substance and content. In a culture that
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Commitment
Why Do We Mean by Commitment? What does the word commitment suggest? It usually evokes a strong sense of intention and focus. It typically is
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To excel or to have fun? That …
I was recently having a conversation with a young man about his passion in certain sports. As we talked further it became very evident that he would
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Staying Resilient and Manifest…
Wednesday 05/13/2020 3:00 PM - 4:15 EDT This event will be recorded and sent to registrants Sliding scale fee: $30.00, $40.00, $50.00 To
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Don’t Personalize Your Partn…
They may impact you but they may not be about you Our close personal relationships often feel like we’re under a microscope, as we examine, react
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Turning the Tide Of Negativity…
I find it troubling that our inclination toward criticizing one another, particularly in familial or committed partnerships, overwhelms our
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Our Words Matter
I've been struck by how often our words fly by each other without any real sincerity to them. Have you noticed how punctuated and meaningless our
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Change a Word—Change Your Li…
Many years ago, I’d often fall into a recurring disagreement with my former wife. At bedtime I’d frequently find myself saying, “It’s hot in
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Collapsing The Wave: Creating …
Some of the remarkable discoveries from quantum physics can be adapted to help us break free from the groove of our past and unleash real change in
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Breaking Free from Your Comfor…
Our Most Intimate Relationship The most intimate relationship we will have in our lives is not with our parents, our spouses, our children or
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What Is a Mistake?
My previous post, “The Problem with Perfection,” unraveled some of the mythology and beliefs about notions of perfection that limit and impede
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What is Emergent Thinking?
What I have come to call Emergent Thinking® is a process that began for me nearly eighteen years ago. I had been experiencing very significant life
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Order our of Chaos—Embracing…
The words, order and chaos, are particularly value laden. We tend to embrace order and avoid chaos at all costs. I’ve come to wonder why that is
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Turning Financial Crisis into …
As a psychotherapist, I have worked with many individuals who are high powered, high income Wall Streeters. Even in the best of times, many of them
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Keep it Vibrating
A Recent New York Times science article informed that if concrete is kept vibrating, it won't become set and retains a liquid form. This concept
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Do not measure thyself!
In my work as a psychotherapist I often see individuals who are plagued by a relentless measuring of themselves. These people carry on an internal
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The Familiar Zone
What we refer to as our comfort zone becomes at times not quite so comfortable, as it is familiar. Old habits and behaviors that we struggle to
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