The Blog - Mel Schwartz

Few things in life are more pivotal than a shift of mind. This profound experience catalyzes defining moments that enable you to embark on exciting new paths. The following articles are devoted to that purpose.

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Marriage: Work or Play?

Most marriages and primary relationships these days tend to focus more on expediency and structure than on substance and content. In a culture that...

Commitment

Why Do We Mean by Commitment? What does the word commitment suggest? It usually evokes a strong sense of intention and focus. It typically is…...

The Gift of Confusion

We are encumbered by a cultural imperative to value clarity and to have the correct answer. The need to distance ourselves from confusion is...

Coming into Balance

I recently broke my foot, a fracture that occurred as I missed a step on my front porch. The break occurred on the outside part… Continue...

From Being to Becoming

How we experience our lives is very much informed by how we see reality operating. The prevailing mindset of most, still believe in a fixed,…...

The Paradox of Expectations

Beginning a new year often brings forth a review of our expectations and I thought it might be a good idea to briefly examine this… Continue...

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Why Acting Strong is Actually …

A troubling theme that I come across in my work as a therapist -- and in my observation of people in general -- is the belief that we should always

Why I Can’t… or Wh…

The beliefs we carry with us carve out forks in the road of our life. They direct us down very different paths and experiences. Our primary beliefs

Raising Resilient Children

As parents, no matter how devoted and nurturing we may be, our children often struggle with low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and a host of other

Why You Shouldn’t Put Yo…

Most people begin their dating relationships by putting their proverbial “best foot” forward. We do this to entice the other person to like us

Freeing Yourself from the Grip…

To further our exploration of developing authentic self-esteem, I'm pleased to announce the launch of the Self-Esteem Workshop, a live, interactive

Self Esteem or Other Esteem?

In my previous article, Self-Esteem: A Missed Diagnosis, I proposed that a devaluation of one’s self lies at the heart of most psychological and

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What is Emergent Thinking?

Emergent Thinking (R) is a transformative process that I have developed to assist people in their personal evolution and self-actualization. The

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The 5% Rule — Breaking T…

Early in my career as a therapist, I found myself feeling frustrated in my ability to assist a couple with whom I was working. They were

Mastering Your Communication S…

Mastering your Communication Skills: Breaking Through to the Other Side A Real-Time, Interactive, Online Workshop To enjoy resilient

For the Sake of the Children

I’ve often heard people in conflicted and unhappy marriages claim that they are staying together for the sake of the children. Their implied

Raising Resilient Children

As parents, no matter how devoted and nurturing we may be, our children often struggle with low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and a host of other

Shared Meaning

We take for granted that our words convey exactly what we intend them to. This is a particularly misinformed assumption. I have observed that upon

To excel or to have fun? That …

I was recently having a conversation with a young man about his passion in certain sports. As we talked further it became very evident that he would

Getting Unstuck: Overcoming An…

In any given year approximately 40 million Americans will suffer from a debilitating encounter with anxiety. Over the course of your lifetime,

Raising Resilient Children

As parents, no matter how devoted and nurturing we may be, our children often struggle with low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and a host of other

Overcoming Anxiety: Turning Yo…

Overcoming Anxiety A LIVE Interactive Videoconference Learn to turn your thoughts into your ally! 3 Wednesday evenings — 7:15-8:30 PM

Rethinking Anxiety

When a dysfunction such as anxiety – or depression, for that matter – becomes so commonplace, we must turn to our culture, which is our aggregate

Low Self-Esteem: A Missed Diag…

According to the National Institute of Health, one in every two Americans will ultimately be diagnosed with some form of mental illness. What’s

A Radical Reality

To this day, quite possibly the most provocative, if not astounding, discovery of modern science remains relatively obscure to the general public.

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Quantum Relationship: Keeping …

The experience of falling in love is altogether reminiscent of what in quantum physics is known as entanglement. In the microscopic realm once two

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Countless people struggle with the answer to this most daunting question. As our relationship hangs on the precipice of making this decision, how we

The 5% Rule — Breaking T…

Early in my career as a therapist, I found myself feeling frustrated in my ability to assist a couple with whom I was working. They were

Mastering Your Communication S…

Mastering your Communication Skills: Breaking Through to the Other Side A Real-Time, Interactive, Online Workshop To enjoy resilient

For the Sake of the Children

I’ve often heard people in conflicted and unhappy marriages claim that they are staying together for the sake of the children. Their implied

Are We Really Speaking about t…

How often have you felt frustrated in conversations as if you were each talking about a different thing? That's because you were... To experience

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Are We Really Speaking about t…

How often have you felt frustrated in conversations as if you were each talking about a different thing? That's because you were... To experience

Be the Change You Seek in the …

Few things are as common to our relationships as our asking for, if not demanding, change from one another. These may begin as requests and over time

Being Heard: Breaking Through …

In my last post, Silence: A Relationship Killer, we explored the ruinous consequences that intentional silence has on relationships. Silence is

Silence: A Relationship Killer

Over the many years that I’ve been practicing therapy, I’ve found that couples that are struggling in their relationships often succumb to the

A Radical Reality

To this day, quite possibly the most provocative, if not astounding, discovery of modern science remains relatively obscure to the general public.

Communication Is the Heartbeat…

If communication is indeed the heartbeat of relationship, it’s little wonder that most relations are on coronary care. Once again we are confronted

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Collapsing The Wave: Creating …

Some of the remarkable discoveries from quantum physics can be adapted to help us break free from the groove of our past and unleash real change in

Breaking Free from Your Comfor…

Our Most Intimate Relationship The most intimate relationship we will have in our lives is not with our parents, our spouses, our children or

What Is a Mistake?

My previous post, “The Problem with Perfection,” unraveled some of the mythology and beliefs about notions of perfection that limit and impede

What is Emergent Thinking?

What I have come to call Emergent Thinking® is a process that began for me nearly eighteen years ago. I had been experiencing very significant life

Beyond the mind-body connectio…

People who are holistically minded often refer to the mind-body connection. They are suggesting that they have discovered a conduit between our

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#133 Possibility and Quantum P…

[powerpress] The Possibility Podcast with Mel Schwartz episode 133 is another bonus episode: a conversation you may not have heard between Christian

#132 Quantum Physics and Psych…

[powerpress] The Possibility Podcast with Mel Schwartz episode 132 is a bonus episode: an interview I gave Dwight Hurst on The Broken Brain

Igniting Your Change Process

We’re all familiar with the expression, “If I could only live my life over.” We obviously cannot get a redo over what has past, but we can

Getting Beyond “How Does…

Traditional therapy is often a blend of inquiry and validation, followed by the time-honored refrain, “How does that make you feel?” While

Over-Simplifying Equals Dumbin…

The problem is not what we think, it’s how we think. Our thinking inclines toward gross over-simplifying. This habit leads to a mindless dulling

The Problem with Perfection

In recent years, I’ve treated increasing numbers of individuals who are driven to distraction through their pursuit of perfection. The desire

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