Few things in life are more pivotal than a shift of mind. This profound experience catalyzes defining moments that enable you to embark on exciting new paths. The following articles are devoted to that purpose.
Few things in life are more pivotal than a shift of mind. This profound experience catalyzes defining moments that enable you to embark on exciting new paths. The following articles are devoted to that purpose.
The Myth of Objectivity When people ask me what I do for a living, I typically respond that I practice psychotherapy. I often hear the…...
Read Full PostWhat I have come to call Emergent Thinking® is a process that began for me nearly eighteen years ago. I had been experiencing very...
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Read Full PostIn the previous post we looked at how dominant the motif of seeking to be right is in our culture. It is one of the… Continue reading Getting...
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Read Full PostA troubling theme that I come across in my work as a therapist -- and in my observation of people in general -- is the belief that we should always
Read Full PostThe beliefs we carry with us carve out forks in the road of our life. They direct us down very different paths and experiences. Our primary beliefs
Read Full PostAs parents, no matter how devoted and nurturing we may be, our children often struggle with low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and a host of other
Read Full PostMost people begin their dating relationships by putting their proverbial “best foot” forward. We do this to entice the other person to like us
Read Full PostTo further our exploration of developing authentic self-esteem, I'm pleased to announce the launch of the Self-Esteem Workshop, a live, interactive
Read Full PostCrises come into our lives, no matter how we may try to avoid them. They are troubling, unwanted experiences or events that take us out way out of
Read Full PostFor those of us old enough to remember vinyl records, we might recall that when there was a scratch on the album, the needle would sometimes get
Read Full PostOur Most Intimate Relationship The most intimate relationship we will have in our lives is not with our parents, our spouses, our children or
Read Full PostMy previous post, “The Problem with Perfection,” unraveled some of the mythology and beliefs about notions of perfection that limit and impede
Read Full PostI was in the middle of a challenging stretch in a yoga class recently, when the instructor encouraged us to come into the edge. Move beyond the
Read Full PostEarly in my career as a therapist, I found myself feeling frustrated in my ability to assist a couple with whom I was working. They were
Read Full PostMastering your Communication Skills: Breaking Through to the Other Side A Real-Time, Interactive, Online Workshop To enjoy resilient
Read Full PostI’ve often heard people in conflicted and unhappy marriages claim that they are staying together for the sake of the children. Their implied
Read Full PostAs parents, no matter how devoted and nurturing we may be, our children often struggle with low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and a host of other
Read Full PostWe take for granted that our words convey exactly what we intend them to. This is a particularly misinformed assumption. I have observed that upon
Read Full PostI was recently having a conversation with a young man about his passion in certain sports. As we talked further it became very evident that he would
Read Full PostAn Epidemic of Depression Our society is in the throes of a virtual epidemic of depression. The numbers are quite staggering. More than twenty
Read Full PostOur Most Intimate Relationship The most intimate relationship we will have in our lives is not with our parents, our spouses, our children or
Read Full PostA young woman in her mid-twenties recently came in for her first visit with me. Three months earlier she had experienced her first bout of anxiety
Read Full PostIn my work as a psychotherapist I often see individuals who are plagued by a relentless measuring of themselves. These people carry on an internal
Read Full PostThe wonder of first meeting and falling in love is in part due to the curiosity and passion of learning about each other. Regrettably, over time most
Read Full PostWe recently announced a new feature at A Shift of Mind called the Question of the Week. The following is my response to Louise, who wrote: "People
Read Full PostIn the previous post we looked at how dominant the motif of seeking to be right is in our culture. It is one of the most singular influences on our
Read Full PostOne of the most prevalent – and damaging – themes in our culture is the need to be right. It’s one of those essential memes that we take for
Read Full PostLearning to remain present and not get drawn into the right or wrong argument requires a willful intention to come out of the groove of an old habit.
Read Full PostToo often, when we encounter challenges and conflict in our primary relationships we tend to spiral down very quickly. When we’re in this down
Read Full PostThe institution of marriage should be intended to enrich our lives. Certainly we might agree that the purpose of marriage ought to be to enhance our
Read Full PostWhat could be more important than acquiring a strong command of our communication? We know that these skills are essential for enjoying successful
Read Full PostMany times a day we may walk past an acquaintance and say, "Hi, how are you?" The other person smiles, says, "good and you?" And we likely respond
Read Full PostEarly in my career as a therapist, I found myself feeling frustrated in my ability to assist a couple with whom I was working. They were
Read Full Post[powerpress] The Possibility Podcast with Mel Schwartz episode 132 is a bonus episode: an interview I gave Dwight Hurst on The Broken Brain
Read Full PostThose of us old enough to remember vinyl records-notwithstanding their recent comeback-might recall that when there was a scratch on the album, the
Read Full PostMany years ago, I’d often fall into a recurring disagreement with my former wife. At bedtime I’d frequently find myself saying, “It’s hot in
Read Full PostToo often, when we encounter challenges and conflict in our primary relationships we tend to spiral down very quickly. When we’re in this down
Read Full PostIn any given year approximately 40 million Americans will suffer from a debilitating encounter with anxiety. Over the course of your lifetime,
Read Full Post[powerpress] The Possibility Podcast with Mel Schwartz episode 133 is another bonus episode: a conversation you may not have heard between Christian
Read Full Post[powerpress] The Possibility Podcast with Mel Schwartz episode 132 is a bonus episode: an interview I gave Dwight Hurst on The Broken Brain
Read Full PostWe’re all familiar with the expression, “If I could only live my life over.” We obviously cannot get a redo over what has past, but we can
Read Full PostTraditional therapy is often a blend of inquiry and validation, followed by the time-honored refrain, “How does that make you feel?” While
Read Full PostThe problem is not what we think, it’s how we think. Our thinking inclines toward gross over-simplifying. This habit leads to a mindless dulling
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