Few things in life are more pivotal than a shift of mind. This profound experience catalyzes defining moments that enable you to embark on exciting new paths. The following articles are devoted to that purpose.
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- Relationships
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What Is a Mistake?
My previous post, “The Problem with Perfection,” unraveled some of the mythology and beliefs about notions of perfection that limit and impede...
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Don’t Call Me A Shrink
The Myth of Objectivity When people ask me what I do for a living, I typically respond that I practice psychotherapy. I often hear the…...
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What is Emergent Thinking?
What I have come to call Emergent Thinking® is a process that began for me nearly eighteen years ago. I had been experiencing very...
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What Informs Your Belief?
While I was in the midst of delivering a somewhat provocative talk on the subject of change, a gentleman in the audience indicated that he…...
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Getting Past the Right or Wron…
In the previous post we looked at how dominant the motif of seeking to be right is in our culture. It is one of the… Continue reading Getting...
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Why Acting Strong is Actually …
A troubling theme that I come across in my work as a therapist -- and in my observation of people in general -- is the belief that we should always
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Why I Can’t… or Wh…
The beliefs we carry with us carve out forks in the road of our life. They direct us down very different paths and experiences. Our primary beliefs
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Raising Resilient Children
As parents, no matter how devoted and nurturing we may be, our children often struggle with low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and a host of other
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Why You Shouldn’t Put Yo…
Most people begin their dating relationships by putting their proverbial “best foot” forward. We do this to entice the other person to like us
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Freeing Yourself from the Grip…
To further our exploration of developing authentic self-esteem, I'm pleased to announce the launch of the Self-Esteem Workshop, a live, interactive
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#137 Overcome Anxiety
[powerpress] In The Possibility Podcast episode 137, I share my approach for overcoming anxiety, fear and distress cultivated from principles of
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The Problem with Perfection
In recent years, I’ve treated increasing numbers of individuals who are driven to distraction through their pursuit of perfection. The desire
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Staying Resilient and Manifest…
Wednesday 05/13/2020 3:00 PM - 4:15 EDT This event will be recorded and sent to registrants Sliding scale fee: $30.00, $40.00, $50.00 To
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Overcoming Anxiety in The Time…
Let's begin by looking at what we mean by the word anxiety. Anxiety is the emotional/physical response that occurs when our thoughts attach to
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Getting Unstuck: Overcoming An…
In any given year approximately 40 million Americans will suffer from a debilitating encounter with anxiety. Over the course of your lifetime,
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The 5% Rule — Breaking T…
Early in my career as a therapist, I found myself feeling frustrated in my ability to assist a couple with whom I was working. They were
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Mastering Your Communication S…
Mastering your Communication Skills: Breaking Through to the Other Side A Real-Time, Interactive, Online Workshop To enjoy resilient
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For the Sake of the Children
I’ve often heard people in conflicted and unhappy marriages claim that they are staying together for the sake of the children. Their implied
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Raising Resilient Children
As parents, no matter how devoted and nurturing we may be, our children often struggle with low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and a host of other
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Shared Meaning
We take for granted that our words convey exactly what we intend them to. This is a particularly misinformed assumption. I have observed that upon
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To excel or to have fun? That …
I was recently having a conversation with a young man about his passion in certain sports. As we talked further it became very evident that he would
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Is Our Society Manufacturing D…
An Epidemic of Depression Our society is in the throes of a virtual epidemic of depression. The numbers are quite staggering. More than twenty
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Breaking Free from Your Comfor…
Our Most Intimate Relationship The most intimate relationship we will have in our lives is not with our parents, our spouses, our children or
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The pathologizing of a culture
A young woman in her mid-twenties recently came in for her first visit with me. Three months earlier she had experienced her first bout of anxiety
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Do not measure thyself!
In my work as a psychotherapist I often see individuals who are plagued by a relentless measuring of themselves. These people carry on an internal
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What In the Hell Do We Mean By…
After reading an article in The Atlantic by Elisa Strauss titled “The Myth of Codependency,” I began to wonder: what in the hell do we mean by
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Over-Simplifying Equals Dumbin…
The problem is not what we think, it’s how we think. Our thinking inclines toward gross over-simplifying. This habit leads to a mindless dulling
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Staying Resilient and Manifest…
Wednesday 05/13/2020 3:00 PM - 4:15 EDT This event will be recorded and sent to registrants Sliding scale fee: $30.00, $40.00, $50.00 To
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Don’t Personalize Your Partn…
They may impact you but they may not be about you Our close personal relationships often feel like we’re under a microscope, as we examine, react
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Relationship Resilience During…
This is an ideal time to learn breakthrough communication skills Even in the best of times, dealing with relationship conflict and frustrating
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Breaking the Cycle of Negativi…
Too often, when we encounter challenges and conflict in our primary relationships we tend to spiral down very quickly. When we’re in this down
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The Wrong Reason for Staying M…
The institution of marriage should be intended to enrich our lives. Certainly we might agree that the purpose of marriage ought to be to enhance our
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5 Principles That Unleash Your…
What could be more important than acquiring a strong command of our communication? We know that these skills are essential for enjoying successful
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How are you?
Many times a day we may walk past an acquaintance and say, "Hi, how are you?" The other person smiles, says, "good and you?" And we likely respond
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The 5% Rule — Breaking T…
Early in my career as a therapist, I found myself feeling frustrated in my ability to assist a couple with whom I was working. They were
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#132 Quantum Physics and Psych…
[powerpress] The Possibility Podcast with Mel Schwartz episode 132 is a bonus episode: an interview I gave Dwight Hurst on The Broken Brain
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Breaking Free From the Groove …
Those of us old enough to remember vinyl records-notwithstanding their recent comeback-might recall that when there was a scratch on the album, the
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Change a Word—Change Your Li…
Many years ago, I’d often fall into a recurring disagreement with my former wife. At bedtime I’d frequently find myself saying, “It’s hot in
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Breaking the Cycle of Negativi…
Too often, when we encounter challenges and conflict in our primary relationships we tend to spiral down very quickly. When we’re in this down
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Why We Suffer From Anxiety and…
In any given year approximately 40 million Americans will suffer from a debilitating encounter with anxiety. Over the course of your lifetime,
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Real Esteem
Self-worth, self-esteem. What do they really mean? Being rich, being popular, Great grades, being followed, Captain of the team Still
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Turning the Tide Of Negativity…
I find it troubling that our inclination toward criticizing one another, particularly in familial or committed partnerships, overwhelms our
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Our Words Matter
I've been struck by how often our words fly by each other without any real sincerity to them. Have you noticed how punctuated and meaningless our
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Becoming Your Authentic Self
What does it mean for someone to be truly authentic? And how many people do you know actually fit that description? Do you feel that you’re
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Rethinking Relationships
One of the primary problems we encounter in our relationships is due to how we envision them. Conventional advice regarding relationships and
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