Entries by Mel Schwartz

Raising Resilient Children

As parents, no matter how devoted and nurturing we may be, our children often struggle with low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and a host of other challenges. Some of these disturbances are simply life experiences that they may regrettably have to experience. Our goal is to feel confident that they will overcome these obstacles and that […]

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Be the Change You Seek in the Other

Few things are as common to our relationships as our asking for, if not demanding, change from one another. These may begin as requests and over time descend into full-blown demands as frustrations arise and hostility grows. The ensuing adversarial energy then often pits each party into a defensive posture whereby conciliation and cooperation retreat […]

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Why You Shouldn’t Put Your Best Foot Forward

Why You Shouldn’t Put Your Best Foot Forward   Most people begin their dating relationships by putting their proverbial “best foot” forward. We do this to entice the other person to like us and possibly fall for us.  If the relationship succeeds the courtship typically declines over time as the routine sets in. The months […]

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Being Heard: Breaking Through the Impasse

In my last post, Silence: A Relationship Killer, we explored the ruinous consequences that intentional silence has on relationships. Silence is antithetical to healthy communicating. Very often people may resort to silence because they anticipate that what they need to say will fall on deaf ears or, worse still, invite an angry reaction. Anticipating that […]

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Silence: A Relationship Killer

Over the many years that I’ve been practicing therapy, I’ve found that couples that are struggling in their relationships often succumb to the default mode of silence. Sometimes, it’s one person who defers to the unspoken, and at times it’s actually both. In either circumstance, such silence – not a healthy pause or meditative break […]

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Overcoming Anxiety: Turning Your Thoughts Into Your Ally

Overcoming Anxiety A LIVE Interactive Videoconference Learn to turn your thoughts into your ally! 3 Wednesday evenings — 7:15-8:30 PM EDT — October 23 – November 6, 2013 Fee: $89.00 – To register, please visit http://melschwartz.com/UpcomingEvents.html   Do you compare yourself with others and worry what they think of you? Is your thinking prone toward critical […]

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Rethinking Anxiety

When a dysfunction such as anxiety – or depression, for that matter – becomes so commonplace, we must turn to our culture, which is our aggregate way of living, and examine how and why it’s producing such distress. Those suffering from anxiety are often simply mirroring an overwrought, anxiety-laden way of living. Turning the victim […]

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Freeing Yourself from the Grip of Low Self-Esteem

To further our exploration of developing authentic self-esteem, I’m pleased to announce the launch of the Self-Esteem Workshop, a live, interactive videoconference, beginning Tuesday, August 13th. In my previous articles in this series on self-esteem, we’ve considered how low self-worth surfaces as an array of psychological, emotional, and relationship challenges, and then we looked at […]

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Introducing the Self-Esteem Workshop

  The Self-Esteem Workshop An Interactive, Live Videoconference Beginning Tuesday, August 13th at 7pm EDT   Low self-esteem can decimate your life and relationships. It can also manifest as anxiety, depression, or ADHD. Regardless of the form it takes, low self-esteem will certainly limit your life.   But it can be overcome.   To learn more about the Self-Esteem […]

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Self Esteem or Other Esteem?

In my previous article, Self-Esteem: A Missed Diagnosis, I proposed that a devaluation of one’s self lies at the heart of most psychological and emotional disorders. Let’s now explore more deeply what the term self-esteem denotes and come to appreciate what we mean by it as well as what gets in our way of attaining […]

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